one explores the plethora of spiritual teachings and pathways via
gurus, masters, religions, you find pretty quickly that the major
thing you have to learn if you wish to live a more conscious life is how to love. And if you have diligently searched for God, for Love
and for the most enlightened way to live on our planet, then you may
have already encountered some of the awaiting pitfalls I am about to
mention in the search for how to love.
find how to love frequently mentioned in the same breath with a shift
from the mind to the heart, letting go of thinking, opening the
heart, feeling through the heart and allowing the heart and your
intuition to be your guides. It is clear that our hearts are
essential, if sometimes vague and elusive entities, in the
all-important search for how to love.
are also told that Love just is! In fact, Love is the substance of
everything, everyone, every thought, every breath. It is so pervasive
that one wonders how we can miss it! And yet, we look around at our
lives and we see much that does not seem loving, and we resume our
quest for how to love.
about how to love abound including meditation, breathing
instructions, how to still the mind, rituals. Volumes of words of
self-help spread themselves before us as we explore.
just the seeming necessity to use spoken and written language to
learn how to love brings us immediately into the province of the mind
-- judgments, comparisons, contrasts, descriptions. When one uses
language, a mind tool, one quickly notes that the automatic creation
of dualities (good, bad, right, wrong).
there a right way to learn how to love? A wrong way? Is one way of
loving better than another? Does becoming a loving person require a
practice? A ritual? Our observation of ourselves as to how we are
paradox arises here. It seems that the moment we are mind-aware of
anything we are doing to educate ourselves as to how to love, we are
in that moment being unloving. Why? We are rejecting or resisting or
judging one thing in favor or another. We are placing our conscious
attention on the difference between a "do" and a "don't"
and that in itself negates the completely all-inclusive and
completely accepting and allowing character of Real Love.
seems, therefore, that how to love has no instruction manual but
rather, perhaps, can be found in the emergence of a spontaneous
feeling from deep within us which already exists there. Perhaps an
intangible spark is waiting to open and when it does, we feel
different. We feel alive, open to everything, resistant to nothing
and in every direction we see beauty and wonder and life feels
miraculous. Love teaches us by its very nature how to love.
if we only have such an experience for a moment or two, we know in
that experience that we do know how to love. It is who we are! The
best way to re-experience it is to desire it and then just let it
happen -- and to remember the feeling! Once ignited, this spark of how to love can only come again and again.
Shared with permission from Circle of Light Spiritual Center (www.circleoflight.net)