Diamond Bling

Diamonds – apparently a girl’s best friend - also a rapper’s best friend – have a totally hypnotic effect on many of us.

Forever fever: “Show her you love her – offer her a diamond” is a trite but enduring marketing catch phrase.

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“Why are we so hypnotized by diamonds?” once asked a dear friend of mine.

Indeed, why would an average person, male or female - one who will never see their *rock* through a jeweller’s magnifying glass - care whether that rock is a $10,000 or a $100,000,000 marvel or a modest $500 zirconia?

Isn’t all that is needed, if needed at all, a bling that glints prettily in the sun light?

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Challenged as most of us are to expose the real *diamond* that lies within our heart chakra – our soul - we find it a fair substitute to flash shiny stones at each other. I suspect that the greater the monetary value of the bling, the smaller is our spiritual bling.

Speaking generally, we are far too hypnotized by the sparkle and the price tag to think of the emptiness beyond the material value of the bauble.

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The more we give selflessly, humbly, quietly, out of the limelight, expecting nothing in return - not a public accolade, a knighthood or a street named after us, not even a thank you - the more we are connected to our true self.

Anything else only amounts to another form of barter which cheapens the act of kindness.

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What do we really do with our diamonds besides insuring them against theft and loss?  Isn’t it ironic that the larger the diamond, the more time it spends in a vault?

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Most of the time, we are so afraid our diamonds will be taken from us – a karmic event intended to show us that what we need to flash is heart-chakra love, not diamond-bling – that, like the famed Crown jewels, we keep them locked up in the dark recesses of our safes and bring out the fakes; which, in turn, is a symbol of how our true self is kept hidden and out of reach by our false ego-persona.

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Here is another tale passed on by Moriya.

“A lone traveler, aware that his pouch contains a string of priceless pearls, is seriously shaken when the highwayman raises his pistol, shouting: "Your money or your life!"

If only the poor fellow realized that the content of his pouch is as useless to him as if it contained a handful of yellow autumn leaves, he could hand it over with a laugh.”

Let’s say that the pouch symbolizes the ego-persona, and that the autumn leaves, in their palette of gold, symbolize the illusory nature of wealth.

Our soul, the only true diamond we possess, is intangible, therefore totally thief-proof.

It did not begin with us and it will not disappear with us.

It cannot be saved or made to multiply.

Just as we were born with it, we will die with it but it will live on beyond us.

To weep for any sort of material loss is to shed blind tears.

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Having said that, the reality is that, en masse, we like to think of ourselves as the sum total of our belongings. Our possessions fabricate our ID to the world.

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On the whole, we seem happy to be the sum total of the house we own [or not], of the retail value of our car, of the size of our plasma television, and of the type, length, frequency of the holidays with which we can reward ourselves – so many symbols of the material world - the only ones we understand and respond to in kind. I will risk saying that for the more spiritual among us, the trappings we wear, the weight of our crystals, the array of organic teas in the pantry, our vegetarianism, the frequency of our meditations and the string of exotic workshops we attend, act in a similar way within this particular milieu.

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As much as I like dressing up, I agree with Moriya when she says that any *spiritual* accoutrement, including robes and habits, only amounts to yet another form of separation.

 

Reality check: whether in a ball gown, a sari, a nun’s habit or a jeans/Tshirt combo – one being, as far as I can see, a lot more practical than the others – our spiritual integrity is only intact when experienced through our soul, not our ego, and within the constraints and pressures of place in which we were born to live, which is never a cave or an isolated community.

And this is where I plug the French saying that goes like this: “L’habit ne fait pas le moine.” It is not the cloak that defines the monk.

 

In Chains

Moriya one day asked me what the difference was between the heavy chains that shackle a convict or tie a beast to a post, and the lighter ones that I had around my neck and the bracelets that crawled up my wrists and the heavy rings that circled my fingers. “What do you mean?” was the only thing that I could reply at the time.

Reality check: necklaces and bangles and rings do symbolize the chains and shackles used to keep captives *in chains* and that, as far as our soul is concerned, there is no symbolic difference between the heavy crippling manacles of old and the ones we use as adornment.

 Whereas chains kept slaves from running away, just as they still do our prisoners, modern chains symbolize how we are chained to our ego-persona, to our mechanical knee-jerks and our conditioned responses to the world.

 Bulls and cows still have rings inserted through their nose. The purpose of such rings is for the farmer to lead his animals *by the nose*.

Trendy piercing, as some of us have chosen for ourselves, is a manifestation of how easily we are deluded, lead by the nose, and hypnotized by outer appearances. 

 Quick check: if I said that both baby harp seals and sharks were endangered species, as they are, and you felt compelled to donate to one fund or the other, to which would you send a cheque?  Why?

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When we deck out ourselves with jewelry, make-up, perfume, lipstick or any  *special* clothes, we know we do so in order to attract attention, to impress the people whose support we seek within the narrow context of that outing, because we feel we need them in order to succeed in our venture, such as it might be. From a spiritual perspective, our daily “costuming” is no different from the extravagant costumes reserved for themed evenings or fancy-dress parties.

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Symbolically any sort of dressing up amounts to an attempt to attract love – spiritual love.

Though I do not link any of this to the vow of poverty, which in terms of personal integrity is neither here nor there, clinging to our chains and baubles for fear of appearing drab or - for someone like me for fear of being invisible - means that we are too anxious to let go and show our true colors – our *real* face to the world.

Therefore less jewelry is more [than enough]

Awareness IS the start. I am much better with jewelry these days. I have removed from my wrists all of the twelve bangles [picture above] though they had been *me* for many, many years.

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A couple of years prior to meeting Moriya, after I had been working with my first healer for a few months, I swapped my gold chains for strings of beads and stones that I used to thread myself. Turquoise, amber, lapis lazuli and rhodonite – as in this picture - were my favorites.

I thought my new style of jewelry was not just pretty, but *cosmic* as well.

Too little knowledge = steep learning curve for the willing.

These days, the only healing stone I wear daily is a cylindrical piece of lapis brought back from Shanghai which I have had caged in a soft macramé weave.

I have threaded the thong through a ring – one of the symbolic gifts received from Moriya – through which I slip my glasses, the only way I know to keep track of them.

Interestingly, glasses symbolize *seeing eyes* – and misplacing our glasses symbolizes our blindness to what should be most important in this lifetime.

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Having said all that, I know there will be occasions when – intentionally wanting to be *properly visible* - I will slip back on a couple of bracelets and a couple of my *cosmic* bead chains, but I will be doing so like the child who dresses up for a night – a special night – knowingly.

The need to do so will simply confirm that my ego-persona is still alive and well – bless her soul.   :)

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At least, now, I understand that when I look in the mirror, it is my ego-persona, not my enlightened self, who worries about whether her hair is looking OK or not and which earlobe plug she should wear today.

Arrgh! Yes! I have stretched earlobes and it does seem even more pointless than unattractive to leave them empty, although Moriya would undoubtedly say that a void, an empty space, just like an absence of clutter and a quiet mind, is always preferable to anything else.

Ok, but seeing as ears are for listening, the sea pebbles in my ear lobes can be reminders for me to listen for the whisper of my soul. There! Now that I have rationalized my ear plugs, I can keep wearing them without feeling *unspiritual*.  :)

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Bottom line: we need to discipline our mind to control our desires and not be slave to them. That is a must, before we can hope to evolve into better human beings than we are: human beings who access all the wisdom and love that we already have built-in.

Here is a fresh little anecdote that happened to me yesterday while visiting a friend of ours who lives on acreage.

While my darling and M were chatting away on the verandah, I went on a short walk to the creek at the edge of the paddock.

I followed a lovely, grassy path to get there, but on the way back, overtaken by the serenity of the place, I found myself walking chest-deep through tall grass.

I was enjoying the moment, yes, absolutely, but I had stopped being *in the moment* quite a while back.

 

As I emerged at the other end of the paddock, I noticed that my sweater and jeans were covered in long, thin little weed seeds known as cobbler’s pegs. There would have been hundreds of them clinging to my clothes!


As I began picking them out, mostly one at a time, I realized these little seeds were timely reminders that the moment we lose track of the moment, we leave ourselves open to *things* that leap and cling to us as readily as ticks to a dog’s ears.

 

You see, the thing about cobbler’s pegs, beyond the fact that each little seed will spawn many other plants, is that the little barbs at their pointiest end burrow through the fibres of any cloth to  prick you within minutes from the inside of the garment.

Unpleasant little things they are but so, too, are many of the action/reaction patterns we allow in each time we lose our connection to the moment under our feet.


Copyright by C.C. Saint-Clair, 2008