Forced Connections vs. Choice Connections Relationships, the connections you have with others, start out as a young child when you are born into this world, born into your journey through this world. In everything that you bring from this world into your life, you are either connected to it or you are not. In relationships or connections, as a child, you are brought into this world with a mother and then what ever your situation is makes up your family…you may have brothers, sisters, a father, and so on. The connection with your mother always starts out as a forced connection, but you rarely choose to ever give that up. You either have forced connections or choice connections. Every person you meet throughout your daily life, every person you meet at work or moving around in your world… it is either a forced connection or choice connection. The term ‘forced connection’ is not meant to scare you. It is only meant to show you that if you had to choose to see this person or interact with this person under different circumstances, you may not choose to do so. If you choose to interact with this person when you do not have to (or forced to), then it is a choice connection. There are many situations in life that show you if it is a forced connection or choice connection. You choose to meet people in this world, you choose your friends. When you start out in this world and you have brothers or sisters, those are forced connections. Later on in life, you either choose to keep them or you let them go. Life and family does not always start out where it ends up. Your family as a child and growing up may be different now than when you were a child. It is as you get older, you either choose the connection or you choose to let it go and identify it as a forced connection. In your daily lives, as you go to work, your co-workers… in most cases, these are forced connections. When you leave your job, the ones that you keep in touch with are choice connections, but the others fade away as your daily routine changes and you do not see them because you are no longer forced to. Because of your situation, because of your job, you are somewhat forced to interact with people but otherwise you may choose not too. Identify the two connections and making those two simple distinctions in your life will make you be able to put each person you meet into one of the two categories. There is also a combination of the both. A force connection that turns into a choice connection or a choice connection that then turns into a forced connection. Life is made somewhat complicated but it is only because you don’t understand sometimes how to view it. Perspective is everything when your reality is made up by it. Life throws everything at you but it is how you see it that makes all the difference. How you view your relationships or connections in this world, allow you to better filter out all of the drama, filter out all of the unnecessary disruption in your lives. By putting these two distinctions on relationships in your lives, you are better able to navigate through to the truth. You are better able to make sure that the people you surround yourself with in your life are that of your choosing and not just because of the situation. It is not to make you feel bad for your connections no matter what the situation, because in life you go through different situations where you need to talk to people but then those relationships fade because people go in and out of your lives as they are meant to. But when you look at your life through distinctions, as life is not black and white, but in this particular situation we view relationships in these two ways. One is just a means to an end, just a means to get you to the next step on your journey. The other is meant to stay and help you learn further and they may fall into the other category of a forced connection later or they may stay as a choice connection, but it is your choice. They key word is choice. As you have forced connections and choice connections in your life, the purpose of your life is to diminish the forced connections and increase the choice connections. It is meant to free yourself of having to have forced connections, of having to go through situations just to get through. Life will never be simple, but choosing a different perspective to view it in will make it less and less difficult to function. You have the power within to decide what your life will look like, who will be in that life, who you choose to have a relationship or connection with. However, the most important person that you must start out with, the most important connection you must guard, is a connection to yourself. The connection to your soul, inside the love and positivity that make you up, that make this world better when there is more of it. But on a smaller scale, it makes you better. Engulfing yourself in it, in the love and positivity and light that brings out the dreams, the passion and the happiness around you in your life. This, at times, is a forced connection too because you don’t like yourself, at times. You wish you could change certain things about you and that is not necessarily bad to change things about yourself. It is not bad to enhance yourself or make yourself feel better on the outside, but just understand the reasons for doing so, so that it doesn’t affect the relationship on the inside. Because if that is strong, then you can choose to change things about you and it doesn’t affect your life. But when you are just changing things on the outside, expecting happiness without looking on the inside and changing things there, that is when life gets unbearable. That is when life starts to be negative, that is when you start to be sad or depressed or look around in envy of what others have because if only you had it, the happiness would be there. It starts on the inside, but changing the outside doesn’t affect the inside; it only affects how you view yourself. If you look further, if you look deeper inside…is there anything to change? You are beautiful, you are passionate, you are powerful. You are!! Choose the connection with yourself and start viewing your life and seeing what is forced and what is your choice. Distinguish between what you choose to do and what you are forced to do. Who you choose to see and who you are forced to see. You have a choice. It is time to stop letting them force you into it. Choose the connection inside and make that connection stronger within yourself so that the power allows you to make the changes around your life, in your life and if need be… make the changes inside. But if you realize that inside there really isn’t anything to change; if you realize the love, if you realize the positivity, if you realize the light is always there. It is always there and you always have a choice in where, in when, and in how to use it, to accept it and to access it. You have the power of choice and the power of creation to make your world something that you choose to live in and not something that you are forced to accept. You are loved. You are love, you are light, you are the power beyond and it is found within. We Are Rainbow Walker. Thank you. Author’s Bio: Matthew Douglas was born and raised in a small Indiana town in the United States and is the youngest of four siblings. He faced many challenges in life, which provided him with the growth he needed to step forward into this expression of his true purpose. Matthew realized he was a natural channel for Rainbow Walker in 2003 and has been channeling them ever since. Rainbow Walker is a collective of spiritual guides who call themselves Rainbow Walker. Rainbow Walker includes Yogi, Joy, Zac, and Seth. Matthew is dedicated to sharing their transformative information with the world. He is passionate about spreading their inspirational work and enjoys helping other people find their true path by looking within. Discover more at www.RainbowWalkerBooks.com