Just try to think, why does a man drink? He may be living a miserable, just to forget his sorrow he drinks. Instead of stopping him from drinking, we must do some positive efforts that shall help the misery, pain, sorrow, unhappiness and problems of his life to be reduced or finished. If he is able to live a happy life again than why shall he drink? The basic quality of alcohol is it helps to forget. And thus by drinking we tend to forget our sorrow. But when we are happy… Neither of us would like to drink and forget those joyful moments.

I would like that you should not hate him nor instruct him nor stop him. Do not try to make him understand. You love him, respect him, and accept him the way he is. Do not look at him with the eyes fill with hatred towards him. Always do not raise you finger against him. Might be, if he gets your love and respect he would agree to give his life a new start in a new way. When we respect somebody then he too thinks that how shall he continue to be respectful? He will refrain him from doing those things that can bring down his respected image. Thus, I would wish from you to create an environment of love, understanding and respect in your home.

When he will live with happiness in home, receive your love and affection; his pain and problems will be reduced, his tensions will be lowered and than automatically he will stop drinking. This would be an indirect of making him to stop drink. If you directly say somebody that you must stop drinking, he would not listen. That’s what you have been trying since many years and it did not brought any fruitful results. So, for sometime try what I am saying to you.

Don’t ever raise the topic of alcohol. You just love and respect your husband. Tell your kids and other family members also to do the same. Then you shall see a gradual change arising in him. Possibly send him here for a nine-day program of Dhyan or Meditation. When a person starts meditating, he will feel the shower of bliss on him. And a blissful, doesn’t ever drinks.